The process of schooling and becoming boring

[kimberkit]

So I've been thinking. When did the pressure of loneliness, and the need for new loves and different experiences stop pushing on me? I've become boring, because I'm busy and tired and have the perfect primary partner beside me.

In the process of becoming fulfilled, I've lost touch with lots of old friends. And while conversations with Neil are stimulating and fun, I have a flood of new knowledge and skillsets (actually new ones, not just building on old ones, which is what college was) that I have to master and other things to worry about and money to stress over and somehow... somehow keeping in touch with friends went by the wayside. How did that happen? Am I really this shallow? It's interesting how we think about priorities :/

Comments

[nescio17.livejournal.com]

I think shallowness and depth are often confused in cases like this. A drive for new loves and new experiences may be sort of like the excitement of picking out the materials you will build the work of art that is your life. If you've gathered your materials (or at least the ones you need immediately) you can start the more subtle work of turning them into something. And at a certain point, you get the big pieces in place, at least for the time being, and you get to work on the details. And these details can be what brings depth--and even if it looks like nothing is happening, the most important things are happening.