Setting people up to fail

M told me today that by hiding, as I am, and believing that no one could help me, or that I'd have to exert myself too much to love them back, that I set everyone else around me up to fail when they reached out.

Very well. Guilty. Of course it's shlock to believe that I can't lead a full life simply because I feel like a failure. Life is worth having, all the minor pains aside. It's just so hard right now.