The process of schooling and becoming boring

[kimberkit]

So I've been thinking. When did the pressure of loneliness, and the need for new loves and different experiences stop pushing on me? I've become boring, because I'm busy and tired and have the perfect primary partner beside me.

In the process of becoming fulfilled, I've lost touch with lots of old friends. And while conversations with Neil are stimulating and fun, I have a flood of new knowledge and skillsets (actually new ones, not just building on old ones, which is what college was) that I have to master and other things to worry about and money to stress over and somehow... somehow keeping in touch with friends went by the wayside. How did that happen? Am I really this shallow? It's interesting how we think about priorities :/

Comments

[osirusbrisbane.livejournal.com]

First, to echo Neil, boring is not a word I'd ever apply to you.

That being said, what you say about a lack of pushing is true. Once you settle in, to anything, you naturally have less excited flux going around. The good news is that this should mean less stress for you. The downside is that, yes, you tend to focus more on maintaining the happy niche you've carved out for yourself than running around and staying in touch with people.

To be clear, I do strongly advocate focusing on building and maintaining your happy niche. Making your own life as good as possible *has* to be your priority, and when it isn't, that's when I think something's wrong.

As for keeping in touch with old friends, it's simply a question of how much that's a part of your happy niche. (For me, seeing friends is a priority, but I'm bad at keeping in touch with more distant friends because I despise phones. Though I love visits.)

[kimberkit.livejournal.com]

*hug* Thank you. And you are definitely part of my happy niche, though it's sort of stressed-out at the moment.