random ranting on finding a therapist of any sort

[kimberkit]

Kim's words of advice on finding a therapist of any kind, be it a psychiatrist, doctor, massage therapist, sex worker, or what-have-you: never settle. I ran into this thought yet again because I plan to never see this massage therapist I saw today ever again, and yet I found myself using the same mental excuses I've heard other friends use before coming to that thought: "maybe they're right" "they're the expert" and, most insidiously, "I wouldn't want to offend them."

BZZZZT. You go to a therapist because you expect them to serve your needs. If they aren't hearing your needs or even if they just had a bad day that causes them to underserve you, they're not doing their job right. Leave. Pass "GO".

Is that a tough standard? Hell no. It's creating a better market of people who can better serve others. I don't want to be a part of a field where clients walk away unhappy; no self-respecting therapist would.

Meanwhile, my stomach still hurts, although the therapist did show me a stretch I can use to wring out my back a bit better. Sigh.

Comments

[addienfaemne.livejournal.com]

"BZZZZT. You go to a therapist because you expect them to serve your needs." Sooooo true, and something it usually takes women many years to learn. We're all trained to be perfect nice angels and try not to offend the people we're giving our hard earned dollars too!

Good for you. Hope you can find a better therapist.

[kizlj.livejournal.com]

that is good to hear. thank you.

[kizlj.livejournal.com]

... with a collary that the professional I continue to pay on a regular basis, my cello teacher, so much rocks. I may be struggling to find the right people in other areas, but man did I hit the jackpot there.

[sir-graeme.livejournal.com]

BZZZZT. Don't forget who is providing the service and who is paying for it.