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So as everyone else said, Josh and Rachelle's wedding was beautiful, and also tons of fun. It's the also first time off Neil & I have taken in over a year, so it was really, really nice.

Salem is a seaside town, but unfortnately, because it was blindingly bright when we were walking by the water, you don't get to see photos of the sailboats. I can throw in a few photos of other stuff, though.

Random shots of stuff from around the town itself )

The library where the ceremony was )

Gratuitous shots of friends, including the shocking sight of Seth in a tux )

Josh and Shelley walking to the reception and dancing )
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I still have not had my first fitting for this wedding dress. (You need at least three before they get it perfect.) They keep promising they'll do it, but they've put me off for weeks, and I am therefore Worried, since their promises don't mean anything.

Of course, worst case scenario is that I don't have a long white gown, and I end up wearing a chic cocktail dress. The conservatives will be Shocked, but then again, they always are.

Plus there will still be cake.

In slightly more amusing news, I went out looking for a corset the other day, and as soon as I walked in and asked if they had any in my size, this was the dialogue:

"Yes, we have that size. When are you getting married?"
"Whoa... I'm not even wearing my ring, how did you know I was getting married?"
"No one ever wears a corset unless she's getting married. They're too uncomfortable."
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Look, I'm not saying that men always get it easier. But in terms of dealing with fashion choices, women definitely bear the brunt of the unfairness.

Observe the wedding fashion stuff, for example.

The bride: either chooses a $4,000+ dress new (in my case, I wanted an $8,600 one) and has to have it fitted, or buys it used and has to have it cleaned and refurbished and fitted, or has it made and has to have it fitted. If she happens to not to have $8,600 lying around, then she's in for either several more weeks of shopping for the right dress used, or, if she chooses to have it made, then she has to spend hours looking for the right fabric and accents or trim. In all cases, she has to endure at least five fittings to get the dress altered correctly.

(Note to answer Shelley's question: Kim is getting her dress made, and is partially complaining about all this because she lugged 5 yards of fabric to the seamstress, and 6 yards more of fabric for the trim.)

Now, the groom, on the other hand... gets to call Men's Wearhouse, which has all his measurements on file, and tell them what color vest he wants his rented tuxedo to be.

Sadly enough, this scenario is replicated in the office, when choosing appropriate clothing to wear. You have to wonder how women are efficient enough at all this to still have more or less broken the glass ceiling, given the amount of extra time and aggravation and pain is involved in clothing.
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They say that weddings are for the bride. In reality, I think that they only say that because in the long run, the bride ends up caving like a fifty-year old couch to the pressures and whinging of the bridal industry, her parents, and her bridesmaids.

Dress shopping -- despite the decision to make the dress rather than spend gadzillions on it -- is super stressful. Dressmaker wants three months to finish and alter it. I have to go buy more fabric. I am overconscious of my weight, and have been staring at the exact line and fall of too many dresses in order to figure out how all of this goes. I harassed all my bridesmaids to alter their dresses already, given that seamstresses apparently have such an annoyingly long deadline, and I asked one of my bridesmaids (who took offense) to wear a corset, so now I'm sure my friends are annoyed at me, despite the fact that as bridezillas go, I don't think that all of this was on the unreasonable end of things.

(Random thought: do brides ask their closer friends to be bridesmaids because they hope that they will be more forgiving of the atrocities they inflict?)

Meanwhile, mother wants flowers on the tables at the reception. I refused, saying that I wanted funky props and for people to have FUN at the reception, rather than stiff flowers. She's still insisting on a notion of propriety. Bah. I WILL make this fun dammit.

How does a celebration of love and a gathering of friends for fun turn into such a debacle? And how is this for "the bride"?

Further, when did weddings turn into such a political thing? I recently emailed a friend who I hadn't spoken to for a long time, asking him how he was and to come to the shindig, but he is not returning my email (is it because we're not invited to their wedding? does he just not want to talk to me anymore? am I being paranoid? argh!)

Kim is tired. Neil is sick, and Kim is worried that she's getting that way.

The good news is, Kim joined a local HS pool, that she can swim at in the evenings. Hopefully that will help her feel more energized, longrun.
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Hmmm. (says Kim, having played hooky from school today because throat was unbearable...)

To you wedded people, what was the verdict on changing dresses between ceremony and reception? Gianna? Dan?

On the one hand, if I change into another dress between ceremony and reception, people (mostly me...) don't get to admire the pretty white dress very long. Also, changing in and out of the damn thing will likely be a pain in the tookus, and I'll have to change twice -- once out of it into another dress, and once out of that other dress back into a bridal gown for pictures after the reception. And I'll have to, y'know, actually find another dress.

Hang on a sec -- before I go on to the next point, if I didn't tell the bridal party -- pictures are after the reception, to get the best of the 5 PM summer light.

Okay, back to our story.

On the other hand, if I don't change dresses, there is the possibility of Kim spilling food on the white dress, which would definitely be bad for pictures, (although that would be amusing for the course of the reception) and there is also the fact that during the reception, I want to be able to move and breathe more freely than I think I'll be able to in a bridal gown.

Dilemmas. What would you do?

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